Here are some of the books I suggest for people to read to help them overcome manipulation etc:

Combatting Cult Mind Control by Steven Hassan http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0892813113/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

Captive Hearts, Captive Minds : Freedom and Recovery from Cults and Other Abusive Relationships; Janja Lalich, Madeleine Landau Tobias; http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0897931440/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

Out of the Cults and into the Church : Understanding & Encouraging Ex-Cultists; Janis Hutchinson; http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0825428858/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

Recovery from Cults : Help for Victims of Psychological and Spiritual Abuse; Michael D. Langone, http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN=0393313212/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

12 ‘Christian’ Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy : Relief from False Assumptions — Henry Cloud, John Townsend http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0310494915/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

Transforming Grace: Living Confidently in God’s Unfailing Love — Jerry Bridges http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0891096566/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority Within the Church by David Johnson & Jeff VanVonderen http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1556611609/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

Twisted Scriptures : A Path to Freedom from Abusive Churches; Mary Alice Chrnalogar, http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0964958805/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

Faith That Hurts, Faith That Heals/Understanding the Fine Line Between Healthy Faith and Spiritual Abuse by Stephen Arterburn, Jack Felton http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0840796579/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

When God Becomes a Drug : Breaking the Chains of Religious Addiction and Abuse by Leo Booth, John Bradshaw http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0874777038/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

Emotional Blackmail : When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward, Donna Frazier http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060928972/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

In Sheep’s Clothing : Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People by George K. Simon http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/096516960X/redirect-home/cultawareinforce

Letting Go of Anger : The 10 Most Common Anger Styles and What to Do About Them by Ron Potter-Efron, Pat Potter-Efron, http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1572240016/redirect-home/cultawareinforce